Arrived home to a slightly cranky H because S was acting up for him.
I smiled or at least didn't react to a little criticism then left him to him own devices. I still feel like I make excuses for decisions I've made concerning S when H is critical. He said I was too "severe" when I watched S poor out a full glass of milk. I said water to drink for the rest of the day. I didn't think it was too bad but his view was it was the way I said it, no it was what i said, no well it was a combination of both, well any way you know what I mean...
He doesn't want S to think water is a punishment. Okay well... **sigh** Do I really want a fight? He seems to be trying to be nice but it drips with criticism sometimes. Does he just not get it? Does he not understand what he's doing? Or is he trying to provoke me? Well, I didn't jump. Water off a ducks back. There was something else I did similar to the water thing. I have to admit that I can get short with S but H is no angel either. I don't think I'm critical of H's parenting skills. It can't be tit-for-tat. Oh and is it really a problem that as a mom, when my S is sad or hurt or whatever that I want to hug and comfort him? Why does H have such an issue with it? He will stop me dead in my tracks if he thinks I about to do that, and then eventually he'll do it. Sorry, had to get it out, I held it in while H was present so you all get the pleasure of my rant.
Oh and H, thanks for reversing the effects of the massage.
Breathe and remember what he's going through. Work towards compassion.
lillystillinlove M:43 H:49 T:17 M:16 S:6 Bomb: 1/27/12 EA+ with close married family friend / ILYBINILWY H moved out 7/27/12 H is Extremely angry, stressed and unable to forgive
