RH..Funny you should say that about the shocking things! I initiated ML with my H a while back. You can read about it on my thread. It was so aggressive and so unlike him. I haven't wanted to initiate it since. OMG I just don't understand.
No..H has not mentioned D since our conflict a while back. (On my thread). It was after the ML incident and my telling him about my plans to move away and find another relationship. I also threw the D back at him and told him to go right ahead. I was sick of his threats. He did a double take. I've never heard about it since. Apparently though he told his parents that he tried to take me to the lawyer and I refused. That's a Lie!! I can't say for sure if he's confused or just making up stories to save face in front of his parents. BTW I'm so upset with them because I've known them as long as H and they have not even phoned me or the kids up to find out how we are?? Blood is thicker than water.
My H started this rollercoaster about D, 12 months ago and has put me through hell. We reconciled a few times and things were great. Prior to that I thought we were going really well. His comments about being unhappy came totally out of the blue. These last 12 months I had been trying to address his concerns and stepping on egg shells. When I said something about his smoking it set him off on a rage which created the latest conflict 3 months ago. That's when he said there was no changing his mind and he would go through with the D. Also when I started to DB. Wish I had known about it earlier instead of being at his beck and call.
I read on your thread that you have been very upset about your H's latest D talk. I wish I was more experienced and was more confident to advise you. I know it helped when I validated my H's comments and indicated to him I was moving on. That was when he stopped the D talk.
Can you tell my what is 2x4? Not sure about that one.
