Interesting post GB. Doesn't make sense about the smoking. I sure wasn't offended about the smoking. I think the 2x4's here seem to be about not using DB techniques. I'm sure I deserve a few 2x4's myself.

It could be any other habit. When my H and I were drinking wine at the end of February and planning his three month separation (!) he said he wanted to try some shocking things I can't post about here. I just tried to be relaxed about it and say non-condemning comments. Meanwhile in my mind I was screaming "you are kidding me!"

So your H doesn't talk D any more?

Do you feel your M was overall happy despite the erratic work schedule?

Me54/H47
'08 H is "done"
March '12 H moved out
Brink of D, December '12
2014 totally reconciled!
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"I firmly believe in the...absolute possibility of marriage renewal."
Jim Conway