Hi Arsene- I know it’s not funny but I had to chuckle when you mentioned the OM was a drummer. In my sitch I can’t confirm OM however I feel there’s a high probability it’s with a drummer in a local band. I know MrBond, (mindreading). Gotta watch out for those damn drummers!! I hope your not a drummer
Anyway, your spot on, gotta do what works. The following comment you made really got me thinking.
“I know that if she stays close enough, for long enough, we still have a chance at a life together.”
It made me think, wow, maybe I shouldn’t be so “matter of fact” with W. Your right, every sitch is different and do what works. I am matter of fact because in our relationship I was a begger, pleader, pursuer, needy, the list goes on, so it’s a 180 for me.
I want nothing but the best for you, I hope you can work towards reconciliation. I vividly remember vets that recently reconciled on this board totally let go, moved on with life, almost to the point of throwing in the towel, total detach, etc….Maybe those aren’t the exact words to use, but I am sure you get my point. For some reason they had to get to that point before things turned around. Like you said, I don’t know
Any updates since the noodle dinner? Take care of yourself as well.
