as we move forward III

[forward]

ML,
We seem to go on holiday around the same time. Like you, I've returned to the same place. And on this trip I did have memories of doing certain things w/X there.

But...these memories don't hurt so much now, do they? At this point it is more "my" area and I was happy to share it with New Guy and the kids. For you it will be you and your S and you will have years where you think of being there w/S more than with X.

It is a shame that your X can't face your S. I think that some of them are too ashamed to try to come to terms with the damage and hurt they've caused.

I didn't think my X would be one of the ones whose remaining life would be a crisis, but that seems to be the way it's going for him. And for your X as well.

I think my X finds it easier to think that he didn't cause any hurt to me. He has been better with D but likes to pretend he didn't cause me any pain.