Thanks for the replies and yes i did order the book.I am still so angry though.And he still continues to lie to me and my daughter.He stays out knowing she is crying to see her daddy before bed.I just could never do that.I admit we did spend more time together before my daughter but the fact that we didnt afterwards wasnt entirelly my fault.H is a workaholic and has ocd which means he didnt come home til the job was done and done right.We had a wonderful vacation in miami at the end od april and even talked about the future and a new car.So Im guessing this woman swept him off his feet in like 3 months.I guess i definately need the book because im not seeing any light at the end of the tunnel.So hard for me to interact at all with him when i know he is with her and telling me he isnt.