I find myself wondering why they regress in the first place. The X in his 20s was more mature than X in his 40s. I think X in his 20s would have been pretty disgusted by the person he is now.
I have blamed myself to a point; the R was codependent and I allowed him to lean on me too much.
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D