I am still pondering the letter. Will probably make a few adjustments to it, then send it out.
Quote: How does he respond to contact from you? Does length of time between contact make a difference in his response?
Sometimes it is positive and sometimes not. I don't see a pattern between the frequency. More just his mood and what he has going on.
I did call him yesterday and I know I should not have. I knew my PMA was LOW. I know I can't rely on him to reassure me. He asked why I'm calling him all emotional. I had told him that he was on my mind today and just wanted to let him know. He wasn't upset at all. He did say that he noticed that I am more confident in myself and that helps me be myself and he likes that.
Note to self: Remember to be confident and happy self! Not emotional!
I do not notice that he gets upset if I contact him, but there are times out of the blue he will call me and be upset about this that and the other.
He has also said during one of an "upset" conversation that he notices that we have a good time and then days without hearing from me. He is noticing even though he could pick up the phone and call.... oh yeah that is an expectation.
So I try to just call every two days or so and just say hi, or Happy Wednesday, something like that. I try not to get into a routine, like calling in the afternoons, or around the same time. Sometimes early in the morning , sometimes it is a page. He seems to be receptive, and even initiating some on his own! Two times last week!
Quote: Water ... you have lotsa positive baby steps here, but continue work at keeping your expectations at the zero level for your own sanity, because there will be times where he will pull back ... but don't fret about that. So long as you are his rock, he will keep coming back more and more.
That is my struggle! And thank you for your encouragement! I sure needed it!
Thanks S_G for stopping by as well! Yes, Yes lets get together again....Kitti let us know when you are settled in.
