I have to agree with what Deb was saying. As I read your post I was wondering if I had missed something about your sitch that you needed to apologize for.
As for forgiveness, this is an issue I am working with big time. I think you have to really feel like you have forgiven your spouse in your heart before they can feel it really coming from you. Also, I am not sure if you have been working through the forgiveness exercise on Sage's thread? I started it and the first step blew me away. I realized that I was guilty of doing everything I was mad at my H for. (Betrayal, lying, etc) Of course the difference is that I was a severely depressed 17 year old at the time, not a 41-year-old adult, yet the realization did give me some empathy.
I think if there is some simpler way to let you H know that you are ready to forgive him, you might get better results. Just my 2 cents worth! SG
PS It was great getting together, lets do it agin sometime!
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