I saw this on another's post: "what's the number one excuse that H's who are cheating give to people? "My W doesn't understand me." That's what he's getting from the OW. He's getting validation. He's getting someone who he believes "understands" him"
I get this believe me I do, but in my case my H said the OW EA is because she understands and validates his "crazy side". He calls her a forgot sole nobody cared about that's why she's an alcoholic, druggy, vulgar, government assisted, schizoid, with delusional tendencies. (his words)
H has committed himself to helping her "making her his sister" getting her in a better apt. clean, and giving her the tools to GAL. He calls it "helping himself through giving to someone else". He sees the "good person behind her crap"
Nothing will be taken from me, cause he's going to get a side job to provide this for her. Or, why don't I open my doors to her, show her a good family and home. My S21 almost flattened him when he asked that..I would rather show her the end of my D softball bat.
None of this has happend...he has "illusions of granger" and is setting himself up for more failure. Believe 50% of what they say! I love that!!!!!!
Yesterday he said he's not trying to leave me, he's trying to leave himself. She provides that escape because she's crazier than him.
He said the other guy in him loves me, this guys loves nothing..not the kids, me, nothing!
I will look into help...but what really works best for me is working out, eating right, and hanging out with my kids. I do like writing in this forum...it helps a lot. I want to know how to Bootcamp...I really need it!
Can you or anyone help me Bootcamp?
The past can't be ahead of you in the future. You don't have to figure it all out, just pick a direction. What's next...I don't know but I can't wait!
