When i came here at first, everyone told me I was in for a roller coaster ride and I believed you but I had no idea to what extent.
As is mentioned earlier in my thread, yesterday W came around to tell me she wanted a divorce, that we were incompatible, that we weren't even friends and that she could never be with me again.
I managed to remain calm during the meeting but i don't need to tell you that once i was on my own (and later in the evening when I was out with a few friends) I fell apart and it was a long way up. Even today for most of the day my stomach was in a huge knot and i could not think of anything else.
Then, this evening, W calls to tell D8 that she'll be dropping by. I, of course don't know what to expect so after going through a mild anxiety attack, I decide to act "as if" no matter what. I was cooking for myself and D8 and I put on some music and started dancing with d8 while cooking. It was a lot of fun, cheered me up and got W off my mind.
When W walked in, D8 and myself were making silly music videos with her phone camera and we were laughing so much it hurt.
To my surprise, W came in, touched my shoulder gently as she said hello and said the food smelled good. I asked her if she was hungry and offered her some pasta which to my surprise, she accepted (in the last few weeks she would refuse any food from me). As she was eating, she commented positively on the pasta and said that she hadn't had western food since I'd left 2 1/2 month before. I was glad to see that she enjoyed it but secretly wished I had cooked one of her favorite dishes.
Later, she told me she was here to apologize for what she'd said yesterday.
I didn't ask her what part she was apologizing for and i didn't ask if she still wanted divorce. I just acknowledged her and told her not to worry about it.
We ended up having a great time together and she seemed relaxed and happy. At one point, after D8 went to bed she told her that her and daddy would just be talking in the living room. And talking we did. Just a nice interesting convo about a bit of everything and I let her lead while I was happy to listen, and validate when i could. She expressed many times that she was worried about our/my financial difficulties (neither of us have found a job yet). She also said that she often thought that it had been a mistake to come in this city (the city where OM lives) and that perhaps it would have been better to go to where we had planned (the touristic area of the country). I told her I understood and that I was sure things would fall into place. We talked about business ideas where we would combine our efforts, she asked me how my music was coming along. Overall, a pleasant evening and i remained a gentleman and a good listener throughout the evening. I managed to STFU while also contributing to the conversation in a pleasant manner when needed.
She just left, and as she walked to the car, turned around again to smile and say goodnight.
I smiled, replied and was the first one to walk away.
My stomach is no longer in a knot and i have a feeling i will sleep tonight. I'm not sure what happened between yesterday and today but I'll take any opportunity to show her how much of a good time we can have together.
Thank you all.
Freshman Class of 2012
M-49 W-42 1D-10 T 10 YEARS M 9 YEARS EA/MLC 07/2010 Separation 28/05/2012 PA confirmed 31/07/12 W Asked for D 31/07/12 D on and off the table since then