So D18 participates in a Teen Miss pagent this past weekend, you know, trying to win a little money for college. She didn't win the thing but did well in several catagories, winning enough to reoup her inventment and then some.
Anyway, XW approaches me last nite about how she and D18 were practicing for the pagent interview questions and describes her disapproval with D18's answer to: How do you like to spend time with your family. D18 says: Well, since my parents are divorced, we dont hang out anymore to just watch TV and stuff, I just like to hang out with the family. XW blurts out: problem is D18's been "hanging out" with her friends all summer and is never home.
I didn't say anything of course, but she obviously failed to grasp the obvious. From D18's perspecvtive, she doesn't want to hang out with a mom and dad who can barely stand to be in the same room where you can cut the undercurrent with a butter knife. I felt like yelling at her "We're not a fvcking family anymore, that's why !"
XW also complained to me about another one of D18's interview answers to a questions about an embarassing moment. She honestly couldn't think of anything off hand since this was an unexpected question, so she described something which took place in the third grade where her mother embarassed her.
Again, I didn't "respond" to the complaints, but I can see she cannot get past how things are still about her and she's suprised and hurt, even by innocent words from D18, who is obviously trying her best cope with the divorce of her parents.
XW just doesn't fvcking get it.
Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
