Interesting day so far...W shows up to take S17 to orientation. Friendly banter, then she looks at me and says "I'm have a hard time" and then hugs me. I'm like, yeah, me too. The hug was awesome. I told her she looked great.
She wanted to go look at a car after orientation so we went and kept it friendly. When we get back to the house she ask if I'm going to be gone Wed night so she can see kids. We talk a little and she says, if you're not uncomfortable, you are welcome to join us for dinner. OK, great.
Then she asks me if she's going to be able to stay at the house next week. Wow, I guess she forgot she told me she would pick them up for next week. I think my BIL must have nixed the entire family deal. I said "I'm not planning on leaving the house" and she said "so I have to see them when you say until I get a divorce decree?" Sheesh, wth just happened. I said, "No, you can take them...your visits don't have to be here." There's some silence and then I say "I think there are clearly a number of things we need to discuss going forward" and she agrees to set up some time with me to discuss later this week.
I was trying to keep it upbeat and friendly, but she took my head for a spin there at the end. I don't think the discussion is going to go well, and she's going to be p!ssed when I tell her I'm not going to agree to swap weeks. Any advice on how to do this gently??
