2) Accept that you are to blame for only your faults in the marriage. Do not fix or excuse your spouses faults. Learn to determine what is real issues and what is just a rewrite as a justification for poor actions , poor boundaries and possibly poor boundaries with the opposite sex ( or same). Do not take the blame for the marriage falling apart.
Chatterbug, while your WHOLE post was beautifully written, this particular piece REALLY hit home for me today. After so much sweet communication from my WAW, last week I got hit with a tsunami of "You never fought for me" stuff. I won't hijack this thread with my own sitch (although I'd LOVE to hear from you guys on my threads) I wanted to thank you for this, as it's given me heart today.
