But I'm finding myself in a bit of a dilemma now. As stated in my previous post, I've let W initiate almost all conversation since she moved out. Now we're at the point that she'll call about once a week and text every couple days. Conversations are almost always nice and positive, with the occasional big-time bump in the road. Most recently, when she asked Why I didn't fight for her to stay, I backslid. The ensuing conversation upset her greatly, and a follow up email the next day stated, among other things, that she didn't see us having much of a future and that there was too much damage between us to ever find happiness together... Although I'm focusing on "Believe nothing she says..." It still stings.
But my dilemma isn't necessarily with that part. It's with the part of the email which she states that one of the pieces of evidence for me not fighting for her is how she has to initiate "Every Phone Call".
Although this shows me that she has very much noticed the 180/LRT, I fear that by ignoring the fact that she pointed out how much this upset her, that I risk pushing her even further away by continuing along this path. The last thing I want is to push her further away and further into the arms of OM.
What do you think? She texted me today telling me she would call me later this week to discuss a few things and catch up (she's very excited to find out her sister is having a baby... telling me that she knows its a sign that her moving away was the right choice as she can help raise it while her sister is in school...)
Am I at the point that I can ask her for a "regularly scheduled" conversation or catch up session? Or will this be seen as pursuing?
