Look closely, and ask yourself ....why do I let another human, have control over MY emotions ???
That is exactly how I have been thinking lately. I say this to myself all the time and even apply it to actions. My other mantra is "I can only control me."
Originally Posted By: Mach1
The schedule is something that you work on TOGETHER...not just you...
Agreed. I was thinking I'd give her a week to "settle in" and then we could sit down and discuss it together over the weekend...or even a week after that. She's pretty emotional right now and I know she needs the breather (hell, me too!). When the talk does happen, I plan to let her lead it.
Originally Posted By: Mach1
How do you know what she is capable of ???
Poor choice of words. What I really should have said is "I can't MAKE HER get past it, and she's certainly not going to do it MY WAY."
She did tell me she was trying to work thru things her own way, but trying to hide from me while doing so. I don't know how she'll work thru it, but I think seeing me everyday just made it harder for her. So space and time is probably just what the doctor ordered. I just need to respect the doctor's orders so that the wounds can heal.
