What did you do in the movie with Squirt? You let him go in a nice way, and he whoooshed right back to you.
Your shell seems to be intact (hey, didn't you just get it waxed?) and you're making progress.
I have to tell you that I agree with Ellie about the part of your H sounding depressed. In fact, your H and Mr. W. seem to react similarly... moods all over the place and the timing not predictable at times.
I've found that the best thing to do is just be me. Not anticipate which H is going to show up at my door (or call me on the phone). As long as I'm me, I'm okay with that.
I'm voting with Option 3, although I'm half tempted to say 2. Sometimes they need to hear that the interest is still there. HOWEVER, your H is fully aware of your feelings and interest, so I don't think that you need to convince him.
Big hugs. Don't forget to get your exit buddy if you decide to pick #1 or #2.... You might need some moral support if he decides to retreat to his cave. Whatever you do, don't take it personally.
Big hugs!
Betsey (aka Bruce)
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
