If She Won't Stop the Affair?

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That is disrespectful. But I would expect no less from an Enabled WW in an active affair.

Did this affect your children in any way? ( I know it did not because they were away )

Did she miss out on meeting any commitments?

If not.

Then use this memory as a thought of strength for those moments you have fear or you feel your not in control.

Its a dark thought. But it will be a thought that can help you push through some difficult moments when you need some backbone or strength.

This was a planned event from the get go.

This is the disrespect that I have been talking about.

You see it only does one thing. It builds resentment. Your resentment.

She will continue down this path because she feels entitled to.

So you need to review if this crossed any boundaries.

If it did you need to follow through.

As the pattern will continue with no reason to change.

So remove yourself from it.

I do not mean move out. I mean record what happened. And move forward.

No R talks.

Nothing. No engaging. Enforce your boundaries and own your home.

There will be many more of these events coming up. I call them twisting of the dagger. Very disrespectful moments.

Your goal is to not to turn to hate. But to pity. Morn the woman she once was not the woman she became.

For these are all her choices.

Her's alone.

Work on yourself.

Make your plans.

Enact them.

Stop sitting around depressed waiting for your wife to dictate your life.