Well here it is Friday morning and I am thinking about H and Seattle. The last contact with him was on Wednesday morning. I do want to go to Seattle, but I don't want to pursue, push. I want to give him his space and I know he is having some turmoil in his head right now.
So I wrestling with the decision as to wether to contact him and offer to come up or not. Here are the options I have worked out in my head. Please vote for your favorite!
Option #1 Call him today. Be friendly and happy. Maybe at the end of the conversation, something like: "ya know I'm here if you ever need anything. No worries, just to have someone who knows you to hang out with and have some fun. Just give a call sometime!
Option #2 Sent him a text message: Familiar, happy, funny friend has ticket will travel. No pressure, going with the flow! Give a call sometime.
Option #3 Do nothing and let him contact me.
Here are some thoughts that are leading up to these choices. *He seems to be in a depression stage. Not quite sure what he wants/needs from day to day *He seems to be sending me fun pages. At least earlier this week. *He seems to be protecting his privacy in Seattle quite a bit. He does not let me know his schedule or goings on there. *He has been very busy this week and has much work to do. He told me during his surprize visit that he had a lot to do and would be very busy. *I don't want to put any type of pressure on him. I don't want him to feel like he has a lot of pressure to complete his work and feel like he either needs to entertain me or to feel bad that he is saying no to me coming up. *He will be at his mom's house next weekend. He was just there at Thanksgiving and seemed to start reaching out more after that visit. I know he asked his sister what he thought of me and him while he was there last time. So that was bouncing around in his head. *Maybe let him miss me a bit prior to his visit with family *Want to apply DB principal of not being quite so available. Maybe he feels too comfortable that I will always be there. No reason to look at his issues. *Don't want him to feel that I am not here for him by not being so available. *Maybe he really wants me to make an effort to say Hey! I'm coming up! *Maybe It's just me who wants to THINK that He wants me to make that effort.
OK so now I have really confused myself even more.
The polls are now open! Please cast your vote for your favorite Water's option. Also please feel free to alter any of the candidates or write in your own.
