Hi Water, You are doing a really good job!! I have depression-yes, it changes daily, hourly, minutely (tee hee)! It is a CONSTANT struggle. Somedays easier than others. Sometimes debilitating, sometimes conquerable. It is very hard for b/c I push people away, tire people out, and feel like a burden. I am trying really hard to act as if as usually acting turns into feeling.
I would suggest that you continue doing what you are doing-be there for him, but DO NOT pressure him AT all. I know it's hard b/c you have needs/wants too, but give him all the time and space that he needs and accept him for it. Don't try to give him pep talks as IMO they make people feel worse. My mom used to always say, "think about the crippled people or people who are worse off than you..." and it MADE ME FEEL WORSE. I just wanted to feel UNDERSTOOD and VALIDATED. Not feel bad for feeling bad, ya know?
Perhaps you should back off on the sexual stuff and making comments to him as they seem to set him off.
