I ask the same questions 3KD? What happened to my happy little life and my future? If there was a problem why couldn't H just speak to me. In all honesty I have felt very unhappy many times during my marriage too but never acted on it. Now I realise what I have to lose and I don't like it.
Sounds like your W is just so overcome with the other problems in her life that she just hasn't got any emotional energy left to devote to you just yet. Stay lovingly in the background, be her friend, don't pressure her on the R stuff. Really i'm no expert but I read so many of other people's threads and the message is consistent throughout..yes it is so hard to implement, but it does make sense. She says she feels trapped. She is overwhelmed with grief. You say to love your W, then you must let her go and try to put yourself in her shoes.
It will take time, be her rock and her friend, but do it discreetly without any pressure.
