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[Serenity13]

Mac,

While the letter was basically what I was saying, I would have to agree with Starsky in not sending it, however, you can't undo what has been done.

Her coming home (instead of the pub or a friends house) and making you a cup of coffee is not reflective of a shock to the system.

Her stuff being packed by the front door when she walked in, would have been a shock to the system. You standing firm in not wanting her to come back, until you guys had a chance to sit down and iron some things out, would have been a shock to the system.

You are allowing your heart, your fear, and your emotions to lead you, and I am sorry but she is taking advantage of you being a "nice-guy" and is milking that for all it is worth.

I don't see anything positive here, in my opinion, I see a woman who knows she can do whatever she wants, treat you as badly as discarded trash, hang with questionable friends at the pub, and come back home when the mood strikes her fancy...

Why?

Because she knows you will accept it.

If you do not take this chance to work on the dynamic between the two of you, as well as work on being a better person because of this situation, you may as well just continue to hit the replay button for the rest of your marriage.

You are my friend and I will not dumb it down for you, this is the same thing I would say to someone I know, as well as someone I do not know.

You know why?

Because this is how I was taught, and I am a better person for it... Without him.

(((((Hugs)))))