"I'm not trying to be an ass, but this is what she's asking for."
You are being an @$$. This is YOUR SON"s birthday. Not yours. He deserves to have both his parents act civil enough for him. Are you going to be that way when he gets married? If it was any regular time it would be fine, but this is HIS day.
It was YOUR choice to give him good memories of the day where both his parents were there. Don't let your hurt feelings affect his happiness. Be the bigger person.
Two sides of this coin MrB. Is she trying to make things easier for my son or for herself? If she was trying to make it easy on him, I think she would have stayed....or at least stayed til after his bday. If I let her have it exactly as she wants, am I making it easy on my son or letting her cake eat? I think you could go either way here, but I chose to make her live with her decision.
And you say say my son deserves "x." The way you say it, "x" is whatever my wife says. I believe she's been cake eating in this relationship for 6-18 months...I'm not willing to let her continue it outside of the house. Should I let her stay in the house and sleep with OM just because it's better for the kids? I think not.
With that said, I did invite her in to open presents and blow out candles, and we did talk for a long time after....so I wasn't really an @ss...it just wasn't exactly how she wanted it.
