Water - does sound like full blown depression. Some thoughts: - keep letting him know that you can forgive and move forward. One thing I told my H at the time that he remembered was "you'll have to work through your issues sometime, why not here with me who loves you no matter what?".
- Don't pressure him for reassurance or positive comments. His head is so full of negativity right now - if you think what he says to YOU is negative, you should hear how he's berating himself!
- Be happy. The worst thing for a depressed spouse is to feel that he's making YOU depressed too. Act as if. I find that the happier, goofier, more cheerful I am, the more likely my H is to turn around out of a bad mood.
- Take him seriously. He is giving you some real warning signs here. He's telling you he's hitting bottom. Be there for him. Call and tell him you're coming to Seattle next weekend.
