Newbie and ready for hard work

[dj21]

Frustration at its finest. That's me! My family pick up went well yesterday, I smiled, made eye contact, and kept the conversation light. No reactions. I also ended the conversation and stated I needed to go. Good actions, small baby steps. So here is my challenge today, our D18 got angry at me 2 months ago and moved in with her dad and OW, crushing me to say the least. Since then my H communicates to me using our D18, before DB'ing I constantly complained and said unless my H directly contacts me regarding our other children the answer will always be "NO". So, I am doing the opposite now and allowing our D18 to give me information from her dad. I find somehow to say "yes", when I want to say "no', and I have not once in the last 3 weeks said anything about my H needing to call me to arrange things directly to me. This is driving me completely insane, I hate it, I can feel the steam busting out of my ears each time it happens. Is this Db'ing? Is this an example of what I am supposed to do? b
Because it is something that drove my H crazy, he stated over the last few months that I was always dictating to him the hows and whens of things with our kids. I so hope this is what it is all about and I am on the right track, I have read and take to heart it isn't easy, I am just second guessing myself looking for validation that this is being unpredictable. Arrrg. deep breathing to focus.