Yes, the pressure. I relate a lot to what GWN said about the batteries running low. As self reliant/sufficient as I am, I still need social interaction and I don't get much beyond my kids and others during office hours.
I haven't spoken to the neighbors much in the past 3 years. My W and I were close to many of them, but for whatever reason that my W never understood, everyone stopped talking to her. It was the beginning of the noticable abandonment issues my W started to display on her way into the tunnel. Her sister noticed it too.
Either way, I still don't talk to the neighbors. I say hello when I see them about, but there's no extended invitations on either side of the fence. The damage was done while my W was in early MLC and I'm guilty by association even though I was at home with the kids that night.
I'm okay with that though. Many of them often acted like they were trying too hard to keep living their college years and I didn't relate to it much since I didn't see the joy in being up late at night getting hammered as often as they did that. I liked visiting with them and hanging out, but I found much of their humor inappropriate - for me. I never called my W names, ever and I couldn't believe the things they would call each other. I didn't always like how they talked when kids were around either.
The only one I didn't care for much was the loud one my W had a bout with. She was popping off about how *explicative* great her bj skills are and her D5 was right next to her. I'm not asking for anyone to agree with me, to each his own. I have my own inner freak, but I keep it leashed when there's kids about.
