One more question how do you suggest I should approach W, and ask her if she wants to work on our R, or get therapy for our marriage?
In terms of asking if she wants to work on the R.... I think the first step is to move back in. Moving back in does not mean that everything goes back to way they were per se, it means moving back in the house that you pay for. Once in, you can then monitor the sitch...see how she treats you. At the end of the day BOTH of YOUR ACTIONS should do the talking.
A couple of other questions....
1) Can you really forgive her? DO you know what that means and what that looks like? I would suggest reading some information on affairs and how to heal from them.
2) If you do not know what YOU need to give the R another shot, how will she know?
Finally, "how do I suggest I approach W"....Be YOURSELF. KNOW WHAT WANT. FACE YOUR FEAR.... KNOW that YOU and HER are worth your best. Give it your best man...that is all you can do.
Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
