Thanks man, I am pretty scared about everything going on right now. I do feel like going back home, W has told me that our talk made her realize who I really am, and that she really knows that. She told me that this past weeks she has realized that I am the only one that has given her real support, on everything, emotionally, financially and security. She told me she has seen some changes on me, and qualities that I already have that really made her think about our R.
I want to take things slow and not screw things up.
On your last question:
"Have you asked her if she wanted to work on the R? It is one thing to want you to fix this for her, quite another to recommit to you"
Last thursday on our talk, I mentioned that if she wanted to be with me she would have to stop her R with SOB. That is it, I have not pushed that agenda, that is one thing I have not done. On the matter that she might just be wanting me to fix this for her, is a pretty though question, Like I said I want to take things slow and pretty much digest and with a clear mind see what her deal is. Like I told you, she has mentioned that we need to regain the trust on each other, she has also mentioned about starting all over again. Before our split, we had wanted to buy new furniture, she has retaken that talk days before this weekend, but now is not about me buying everything, now is about the both of us saving to do that. She is now taking a more active roll in making things happen with both of us working on it to get the furniture.
I am not really sure if with this, I am answering your question if she just wants me to fix things for her, or that she is actually working on our R. I have to take things slow, for me it has also been real fast on the everything that is going on.
I will take your advice and write what is it that I want on our R. One more question how do you suggest I should approach W, and ask her if she wants to work on our R, or get therapy for our marriage?
