hi stubborn - thanks so much for your "business" advice - i will take all i can get. i am really new at this, in the sense that i know what i did before trying to sell my work, was not the right way to go about it, and i'm trying to find out now how i can balance those things that you talk about better.
this knitting job may just be the way for me to do it. i get to design my own stuff - and as long as she likes it, she's basically selling forward my work, so it's much better than i thought it might be. and basically falls under what you said: I suggest focusing on developing outlets that minimize the time you spend doing sales
you are right about pricing for wholesale and i will focus on that. she's given me her price range - so i am designing with a view to that - really in how many mins it takes me to make a piece at the price she is paying so i pay myself a specific x$'s per hour!
as for the topic at hand - i know it sounded like i was waiting to respond to h and focusing on him. it wasn't quite what i meant, though. joann told me to watch carefully how he responds to everything i do - if he pulls back then back off and figure out what i did and stop doing that immediately. if he seems more open then keep doing what i was doing.
my focus is at the same time really on me, in the sense that i am not going up and down depending on where he's at, as much - just inspecting where he's at and then backing off a bit or being more friendly. does that make sense?
she also told me to mirror him when it is a positive behavior form him
thanks for stopping in - i look forward to your "visits" and when you don't post for a while, i wonder how you are doing
zig
me 46 H 38 M10yrs T 11 S10 BD ow 8/11 h filed 9/25/12
"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"
yikes!1 h just called - well he left a message first saying - we have a lot of stuff to get done here, can i call him back
when i called he asked what i was doing today and whether we could get together to talk. luckily i have the intern coming in a few minutes so said that i could after 2 or 4 depending on how long she stayed.
he kept saying we have stuff to take care of so i asked casually - did he mean about the taxes and stuff and his reply was well we have to figure out what's going on between us (????? ) and we need to get the ball rolling on stuff here.
he was nervous - stammering...
so i'm a bit nervous now, trying not to expect the worst and at the same time almost being resigned to it.
i need to stay on that picnic blanket
me 46 H 38 M10yrs T 11 S10 BD ow 8/11 h filed 9/25/12
"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"
Zig, we are here. Stay focused.strong.compassionate. Keep it brief it it makes you uncomfortable you do not have to say anything you are not ready to say.
We are waiting at the picnic.
Lots of love
((((((( )))))))
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
well - i had to call h to let him know if i was "available" this afternoon - we had left it until i found out what time the intern was here until.
before i did that - i called and made an appointment with joann
i know this sounds stupid, but i hadn't realized until today that when h says jump i say how high!! suddenly i was like - he can wait to give me his "news" or whatever. he makes me wait and wait for every little thing, this time i'm not going to be so available.
so i called him back and said sorry that today was not really that good after all and in fact it looks like my whole week is rather busy, maybe thursday evening or sometime friday and that i'm not sure about friday either yet as i'm waiting on a client? his voice got a bit over casual and tight and he said yeah no problem.
this way i can talk with joann - and she can help me formulate a response for the worst case scenario and the best case one and everything in between!!
de badger is wid me now
thanks all of you - i love that we have this - it's so needed for all of us, no matter how :brave" we are trying to be, there are those "moments" ....
(((((((((( ))))))))))) zig
ps - i'll take that whiskey now, thank-you! cheers to all of us
me 46 H 38 M10yrs T 11 S10 BD ow 8/11 h filed 9/25/12
"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"
Excellent zig...you took a breath and chose your action instead of responding to his. I am so impressed and proud to be a witness to it. Its very inspiring.
When to you speak to your coach?
Let's have a drink!
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
