I Have 90 Days To Save My Marriage

[NASCARDaddy]

Okay, I have two questions for you guys today. The first is this. About a week ago W asked me to talk to the brother whom I am living with and ask him if I could watch our kids at B's house on occasion. I told her that I would if she agreed to do something for me. After some negotiations she agreed that if I did that, left her alone for three weeks, and had good days with the kids for three weeks that she would go on one date with me. However, after reading the 37 Rules and having gotten some insight from various members of this board I have questioned whether this is a good idea or not. So my question is, when the three weeks are up should I push for the date that she agreed to or should I just take a deep breath and not worry about it unless she brings it up?

The second question regards a somewhat stickier problem. To ask the question I need to give you the back story. Quite a while ago I reconnected with several friends from high school on Facebook. One of them was a girl that I kind of had a crush on for a semester but it was never serious. Anyway, as things have progressed with my divorce we have gotten to talking more and more frequently since she went through a divorce about two years ago. However, yesterday I realized that things were heading in a direction that I am sure neither of us had intended them to go. I could see that we were in the beginnings of EA and possibly even on the verge of PA (she had started talking about coming up from California to see me and getting us a motel room for the weekend.) As a result I told her that I still value her as a friend but that I had to stop talking to her at least until my divorce is final. So my question is, how do you avoid falling into a situation like that? I know that at least in this particular instance I was just happy to have someone show some interest in me and give me emotional support and I let it get too far. But what I don't know is how do you recognize when things are going to far and how do you keep healthy relationships in that healthy area?