Quote: Yesterday I get an email saying to send him email to his work account as he is shutting down his hotmail account. Why would he do that?
Because he doesn't want OW emailing him anymore?
Quote: think IMHO, this is our biggest stumbling block. He desperately wants me to admit to doing something with someone. Here is where I would really appreciate EVERYONES opinion on.
Very common alien behavior - because they feel guilty, they think YOU might be capable of betrayal too. When my H came back, he started asking me all about the numbers on my cell phone (of course I didn't know what they were, because they were all completely innocent things like calls from the orthodontist, plumber, mechanic, etc.!). The thing is, it was completely ridiculous, because I've NEVER looked at another man since I met my H. Just his guilt coming out. So I say approach it simply - "no, I've never cheated, I've never wanted to cheat, I love you only. Period." Then ignore it.
Quote: How do I handle this? How do I create an environment of trust? How do I let him know he doesn’t need to feel guilty?
Quit asking about the OW. Quit having R talks except to talk about how you'd like to move forward to a new R. Validate his concerns when he brings them up. Be upbeat, happy, fun when you see him. Offer to go visit him in Seattle for a weekend of you-know-what Do lots of 180's and get a really intewresting life for yourself.
