Make more friends here. Find others with similar sitches that you can relate to and comment there, and they'll come comment for you. It used to make my day when I saw a new comment on my thread!

Your goal should be to wean yourself from direct support (should I say this? what does it mean that she did that?) and take the larger lessons you learn here to begin answering your own questions and standing on your own two feet.

Basically, GAL. Work on your own issues. Detach so her emotions are hers and yours are yours. Become an even better you. Most people get to this website after their marriages are beyond the point of no return. You only control yourself. DB can help you save yourself and it turns out that's more important than saving your M. No one thinks so when they first get here, but it's true.

Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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Happiness is a warm puppy.