I will also add this... when I picked up SD, STBX was doing laundry and in a foul mood. After the movie was over and I dropped the kids off she was still in a foul mood. I shared a bit of news with her that one of the students we had when we worked together passed away from a car accident. That brought her out of her funk for a minute but then I could see her slip back in.
I almost asked her what was wrong, but I caught myself. Not my problem anymore and frankly I don't really want to know or listen. I already blew up my to-do list taking the kids to the movie, I didn't need a 10-minute litany of her issues.
So I said good bye and left. It's feeling better each time I just leave and let her sit with her problems. It used to tear me up to do it. Then it hurt to do it. Then it bothered me. Now I just shrugged my shoulders when I got in the truck and simply felt sorry for her, but no real regrets.
Married 6 together 8 Me:38 W:31 second marriage for both SS12, SD10, S6 Bomb: 9/8/11 (day before our 5 yr ann) W moved out: 2/18/12 D final: 11/12/12 Share S 50/50. Spend as much time as I can with SS & SD