She wanted to agree to no sex with anyone else for the short term....she doesn't want to see anyone, just wants to work on herself and try to figure things out. She doesn't want to have sex with me because of the emotional bond and doesn't want me to have sex with anyone else for the same reason. I told her I wasn't interested in seeing anyone else right now, but she said she didn't know how long it would take her to work thru her issues.
I wonder if this is something like where my W is partially at right now...we haven't had this discussion, but the actions seem to sorta match...it is an improvement from last fall/winter though, when the internet had one wild cougar running wild... lol.
This also may mean that she has second thoughts, but is afraid of making the wrong choice (either one, stay or go). Don't promise her anything, you have said it perfectly (not interested in anyone else)...leave it there, she needs some uncertainty that she may lose you...imo...
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She also said she can't stay away from the kids. She wants to come over every morning and make them breakfast before school. She got upset and started crying so I just said we'll talk about it. I really don't like that idea. It sounds like she wants all the comfort of the family, with all the freedom of being single.
BD...this is almost verbatim of one of the schemes my W tried selling me last fall and winter...funny how the words and schemes are so similar across so many very different people and sitches...can you say "script"?
I told W that that was not acceptable to me (total cake-eating), and confusing for the kids, and of course her SAHM status would have to change, as I cannot afford a second housing expense...so it never happened (yet, always the "yet" possibility...*sigh*).
Hang in there and keep your mind open...my sitch turned positive in a rather fast way out of the blue (I think her last OM scared her, stalky predator type, but I don't know, just a gut feeling). Maybe this last drama with OM/OMW/you and her was a reality 2X4 for her...ya never know...
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In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
