Roller coaster ride continues. Good conversation this evening, some explanations on both sides, better understanding of why the move out occurred. Honestly, had she not been drinking, I don't think she would have left now that I've talked to her about it. But since she's out, she figures she might as well go with it and see if she feels any different. I think that's fine as she's doing more damage being here than not.
She wanted to agree to no sex with anyone else for the short term....she doesn't want to see anyone, just wants to work on herself and try to figure things out. She doesn't want to have sex with me because of the emotional bond and doesn't want me to have sex with anyone else for the same reason. I told her I wasn't interested in seeing anyone else right now, but she said she didn't know how long it would take her to work thru her issues.
She also said she can't stay away from the kids. She wants to come over every morning and make them breakfast before school. She got upset and started crying so I just said we'll talk about it. I really don't like that idea. It sounds like she wants all the comfort of the family, with all the freedom of being single.
Also got a death threat from OM for talking to his wife...that was awesome. Had to have the police come out and write it up.
Now, what to work on. I feel like the issues I've been working are still valid, but there's a whole new dimension now that I'm not sure how to handle. How nice should I be? How giving should I be? Where do I draw boundaries with the kids? How do I create interest yet protect myself? Need to work on these items over the next few days.
