I think your answer is quite good. I'd like to see you put yourself in her shoes more, without pride and ego coloring your thoughts. Then you may be able to answer your own questions.

You can learn a ton from this website even when no one's writing to you.

Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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Happiness is a warm puppy.