Should I initiate R talk?

[Arsene]

Thanks Adinva and SA,

I didn't comment on the itemization of the money because I know that she did spent the bulk of it on necessities and although I still think that she's used much more than she should have, I didn't see the point of raising the issue just to have her run on the defensive.

This is part of my 180s. To stop criticizing all the time.

I agree with the response you suggest and I can honestly say that.

I have thought about her text and I can see how she might see it that way. I'm wondering if I need to justify my purchases to her or if this would simply launch us into an argument. In any event, this is what I plan to send to her.



"Hi W,

Thanks for your message. I can assure you that I never expected a breakdown of your expenses as I always trusted you would do what is best.

I can now see how the attempt at humor in my comment was offensive to you and I am sorry about that. It was never meant that way.

With regards to the guitar, before leaving, I’d planned to buy a guitar if I found one and I didn’t see the need to change my plan because our situation had changed.

I bought the motorcycle so you could have the car to allow both of us to be more independent. The reason why I got this particular one is to help me move on by going on motorcycle trips again. I was also thinking about possibly trying to write that proposal for a motorcycle show, as we’d discussed in the past.

Looking at the situation now, I can see how it might look selfish and thoughtless of me to do so but I did these things to help me move on and finally give you the space and time you so desire at the moment.

Thanks for expressing the way you feel about this. I hope you have a nice day.

Take care"

How does this sound? I hope I can have an answer soon because W is spending the afternoon with D8 and I'll see her tonight. I'd hope to have answered before meeting her.

SA, I need time to reflect on your comments re" anger and MLC. I'll comment on this as soon as I can.

Thanks again for being here.