From your tag line, our spouses could be the same person....they even moved out on the same day!
I'm struggling too...it's tough. I think it will get better with time, but right now I'm hurt, angry, and frustrated. I can say for certain my W hasn't thought thru everything, and she certainly thinks she can cake eat like she's been doing while living here. Sounds like you're in the same boat. My plan is to limit contact as much as possible, keep it to texting/email when necessary, draw some boundaries and ensure she deals with her choice to leave without a safety net, and pretend she's dead the rest of the time. Time to move forward. If she comes around eventually, maybe I'll be open to it, maybe I won't. I'm going to try to stop worrying about the marriage and worry about my own sanity.
I'm sorry to hear we are in the same boat, I certainly feel for you. I've been reading through your thread. I'm glad we both found a place to vent and rage and have someone pull us outside of ourselves. I hope that we all get to a place we want to be, when we figure it out. Or at least be able to make the the place we end up as happy as possible.
Well off to continue GALing today. Spend the AM at the beach with a friend and her kids, it was unplanned and nice. Now to get ready to go to a B-Day party for a friends kid. Home tonight to do S's HW, watch more Olympics. I don't expect to see H until tomorrow evening at a meeting for S's School. Trying to keep my self busy!!
I guess this is what my IC has been telling me to do. Stay calm and distract myself from the drama in my life. Trying hard to...
Best of luck to you Breakdown.
lillystillinlove M:43 H:49 T:17 M:16 S:6 Bomb: 1/27/12 EA+ with close married family friend / ILYBINILWY H moved out 7/27/12 H is Extremely angry, stressed and unable to forgive
