W texted me at noon - "morning. Will be by you at 2. Are we gong to have a chat? Let me know. Thank you"
My reply "it's fine. Hug Ma from me. Not sure about the chat though. I'd rather to what you want to say to me. Something I should have been doing. Drive safe"
W "we need to discuss this together. So if you don't want to talk then what I'd the use that I come through. Then I would rather just leave it. I need to know where I'm going from here"
My replay "come through back home. Because we both need to know. A talk is exactly what we need to do. And I know exactly where I'd like you to go and you do too" - meaning home!
W arrived at two. Hugged but not warmly. Had a chat about last nights rugby - all pleasant. Then W stared talking about how she'd made her mind up and the asset split. I told her that would have to be handled by our respective L's. so now she knows.
She says she's still trying to find a job and then move out. She asked if she can stay here. And that she didn't want to be sleeping on a friends couch.
I've email my L to get him to send a letter to the W's L. Asking him to slow things down as much as he can.
Time is the thing that will allow the W to come back to earth.
In no way am I being aggressive or annoyed with her. I'm just being firm, understanding and companionate. The very things that are missing in her life at the moment.
The good news is that she IS coming back home tonight. So I hope she doesn't "hate" (too strong a word) me. It's the situation she's in that [censored].
I've been reading through some Facebook private messages from the last time this happened (3 years ago) and there are so many similarities it's frightening.
One thing keeps popping up - "she needs you more than you think"
She also stated texting me after I went dark on her.
