GM, Forward and Seeking Ansers both have given you excellent advice. The projections that mlcer spew is actually how they feel about themselves, not you! Yes, the spew hurts and much of what they spew is not true, but you will need to step back and from his spewing. They spew at the one who is closest to them that they few safe in doing so...that is the lbs. Just like toddlers spew and act out when mom or dad are around...generally toddlers do not act out w/other adults.
You have choices just as seeking answers indicated in her posting. Please take some time re-read what she has posted. She's right, it will get better in time, but the hurdles and pot holes along the way are hindering you from moving to the next step which is the next turn on the yellow brick road.
When he spews, walk away, change the subject or walk away. When your children tell you things that he has said, listen and it they aren't true, tell them. Let the spew run down the drain and don't allow his spew to eat you up or bring you down...you do not want to go into that miserable dark hole that he is living in. You have a lot of life to live and the world is out there waiting for you and your children. God has a lot of work to do on him before he settles down again.
Pull up your boot straps and continue moving forward.
BTW, you may want to start a new thread...Jack's going to be coming along to remind you of the limit of 100 postings soon.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
