Again about the shoes thing. I think there's a lot of side plots to the control issues. I'm not talking to her at all and I know it grinds her nerves when we don't discuss these kinds of things.
Some of them have some strange ideas, I'm not sure if it's a control thing or just hyper-cake eating. My X said to a mutual friend when she was questioned as to her expectations of me, "Why should the way we parent change just because we're divorced?"
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I know that if I start the paper work she will use me as the villain to her friends. But what I fear the most is that she will use it to tell the kids - "See. Your dad wanted a D, he filed the paper work. He hasn't been telling you the truth."
Can you file for a financial separation without filing for a divorce? You can in my state. I know of one married couple who is and has been financially separated for years for purely financial reasons so it doesn't necessarily predicate a move towards divorce. That might end her cake eating and give her a wake up call as to life without you in the picture.
Mine also said to same mutual friend, "I need Sleeper for financial and child care reasons." I learned the hard way if you let them define the game and the rules you're gonna lose in the end.
"The answers are within you" (can't remember who). Unfortunately, so is the bullshit.
