Fighting between faith & reality

[sleeper]

Again about the shoes thing. I think there's a lot of side plots to the control issues. I'm not talking to her at all and I know it grinds her nerves when we don't discuss these kinds of things.

Some of them have some strange ideas, I'm not sure if it's a control thing or just hyper-cake eating. My X said to a mutual friend when she was questioned as to her expectations of me, "Why should the way we parent change just because we're divorced?"

I know that if I start the paper work she will use me as the villain to her friends. But what I fear the most is that she will use it to tell the kids - "See. Your dad wanted a D, he filed the paper work. He hasn't been telling you the truth."

Can you file for a financial separation without filing for a divorce? You can in my state. I know of one married couple who is and has been financially separated for years for purely financial reasons so it doesn't necessarily predicate a move towards divorce. That might end her cake eating and give her a wake up call as to life without you in the picture.

Mine also said to same mutual friend, "I need Sleeper for financial and child care reasons." I learned the hard way if you let them define the game and the rules you're gonna lose in the end.