Need help with detaching and hoping to reconcile.

[lillystillinlove]

Pissed off, really pissed off. H has been off getting his new place ready "for S". He hasn't laid eyes on S for for well over 36 hours. And it seems that, from his phone call just now, he has no clue what he intends to do when it comes to our S. He's been busy getting his place ready for S to come over. I felt obligated to ask it the "plan" to make this a slow transition using the ruse that he is remodeling the new place to now it's going to be fully set up and "ready" for him. Silence then H says I don't know. Tried to brainstorm the said he didn't know again. I said I don't know either. So WTF, what a jerk! If I have even thought to act the way he is right now, regardless of the situation, there would have been all out war. ALSO I thought this was for a little time and space to think and decompress. WTF!!!

I I think I handled it ok but F&*$ I'm pissed. I so want to lay into him. He's the one that wanted to keep this from S as much as possible. He won't even talk to S on the phone right now. JERK!!!

How do I proceed? Damn him, who the hell is he, what is he thinking. Our S is 6, he expected me to suck it up and deal, well MFr, SUCK IT UP! Our S is supposedly the most important thing in the world to him and he's willing to do this to him??? What reality am I living in?

HOW DO I DO NC WITH A CHILD? SOMEONE TELL ME PLEASE. I CAN"T DEAL WITH THIS CRAP. DO I STOP MC? AM I OBLIGATED TO PROVIDE INFO ABOUT S THAT ISN'T VITAL? DO I PROVIDE HIM THE OPPORTUNITY TO FIGURE OUT WHAT IS HAPPENING IN S's LIFE?

I WANT TO SCREAM!!!!!!!!