Will it be this way forever for Fixer??

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Fixer,
You deserve better than this. And your daughter deserves to see you with someone who loves and respects you, and wants to be with you. Why doom yourself to four years? What are you showing your D if you stay in a loveless marriage?

You have been admirable in sticking it out. But you obviously need more. It is time to have the "This marriage is not working for me" conversation, and be prepared to do something about it. You might prepare to walk--as Michelle points out, you may need to shock your spouse into doing something.

Maybe you can get things into counseling.

If not, do not allow the fear of being on your own to deter you from the best life you can have.

If your X does not respect you, you deserve to be with someone who does. And demanding attention and respect sounds like a 180 for you.

My X left when D was a little over a year old. I spent three years recovering, working on myself, and struggling mostly alone with a baby while X lashed out at me at every turn.

Life has changed a lot for me, and for X. I am humbler, and kinder, and also more optimistic and I also have more of a backbone. In some ways I've been more fearful and I've been struck some blows, but gosh, I am glad I met New Guy and realized what it's like to feel wanted.

PS: As far as the Batman movie, I can understand not wanting to go. It's like this horrible tragedy happens...even if you're not really scared of it in your community, the idea of the movie makes it seem sad now.