I'm sorry you find yourself in this position. I know you feel hurt and embarrassed, and you do have a right to your emotions, but try to work thru how you are feeling without showing them to your H.

- Read Sandi's 37 rules and focus on yourself and your kids for now.

- Look at Cadet's advice and try to follow it

_ Get a life (explore activities that make you feel good, hang out with your kids, etc). As you work on your PMA, you will find that you are able to detach better

- You'll get a lot of support on this board, try to journal here as often as you can

Me 33, H 34
T 15 (on and off, 7 years this stretch)
M 4
DD 3
OW July 2010, IDLY - Oct 2010

1st sep 28/5/11-14/8/11 (my idea)
OW confirmed 25/11/11 (H travelled with OW 26/11/11)
I moved out 3/12/11