This morning H showed me just how erratic his brain is. I don't recognize this man any more.

He has gotten a hold of his anger to the point were he doesn't give it to me anymore. He said it's all for him to torcher himself with and give it to God.

I know I can't help him. How sad it is that the best thing I can do is get out of his way.

I mourn for my H I had, the father the kids had, and my best friend. He's not here any more. And, without C (which he won't get) he may never return. It's like a death!

I know I'm able to GAL , work, friends and even a new relationship, (if it goes that far) I feel stronger and more confident in my mind everyday. My kids are grown, my parents are behind me, and I was very independent when we met.

I did not find this site until this later end of things but I am grateful still because I'm going to need a lot of strength ahead.

What if I'm stuck with him. Without counseling he's gone, confused, scattered, depressed, memory loss....broken. He doesn't know how to take care of every day life responsibilities. He works, works hard, that's all he knows.

Has anyone been in a sich were the spouse was not recovered, but not gone.


The past can't be ahead of you in the future.
You don't have to figure it all out, just pick a direction.
What's next...I don't know but I can't wait!