I got upset when my W filed for separation last year. I went looking for reasons on her computer, her phone, and her facebook account. I begged her to let me try to be better. I pushed her to promise not to leave. We talked for several hours one day because I wanted to get her to say the words "I promise." Now I understand I was trying to wear her down because she usually gave when if we argued or talked long enough.
This is something that we never could work out, really. My W tends to size things up pretty quickly. Once something is done, it's done, and she doesn't like to analyze. She used to tell me I asked the same questions over and over and get really frustrated when we needed to decide something and I would say, "I don't know." I like to talk something completely through and ask all of the questions I need to ask to understand something or come to a decision. I admit that I sometimes just avoided decisions because she seemed to have an easier time making them. This is something I am not sure how to change.
