I think I have forgotten how to stand up for myself or let him know when behavior is unacceptable. As one of my friends put it, I just take the bad behavior and delicately eat it with my fork and spoon.
This is so typical for most LBS. We are conflict avoider, pursuing, codependent, enabling, FIXER's.
So yes, we are not perfect and have many things that we can work on while are spouses are orbiting out in space.
LRT is for YOU, to protect YOU. It is unlikely to FIX your marriage. But it may help to FIX YOU so that you may be able to have another relationship in the future. Hopefully with your spouse.
From what I have learned the LBS gets to choose, not right now, but in the end.
