I'm letting my W percolate ideas about a vacation. We haven't had one in eight months. My preference would be to wait until she's employed. It's not worth drawing swords over. I'll put my energy into keeping it manageable--destination, flights, boarding, length of stay.
She shared with me her difficulties with anxiety, and her history with agoraphobia. I think the ending of her part-time cooking job will force her to venture into the world again. She'll procrastinate about job-hunting. I'll need to take the lead and put some structure into job-hunting for her. She should be eligilbe for unemployment benefits.
I'm learning to be more flexible with her imperfections, and less judgmental about them. I'm learning to "loosen my grip" about needing to be in control of her. I'm letting her have her moods and am not being reactive to every comment she makes. Many times she speaks emotionally, with little thought. We continue to get along for the most part.
We continue to be out in the world as a couple. People at our dance studio, and at our Friday night dance venues are incorporating us into their groups. We are making connections individually, and as a couple. The potential for friendships is growing. It helps to be with other couples, as one can see that we all struggle with similar conflicts. I have been attending church for seven months, and read religion and theology daily.
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CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
