Alien Invasion...help

[reachingHigher]

It does sound like your H is depressed. Must be really hard to watch someone you love go through that. When my H was depressed I was too wrapped up in myself to even notice. Just thought he'd snap out of it.

Has the DR section on depressed spouses been any help? I haven't read that section.

What's a redundancy? Like a sabbatical?

Do you enjoy the golf with your GF? It seems like it would be relaxing & a good time to talk.

How painful when H recoils from your touch! I think they react that way to us because they have so many of their own issues they are dealing with. As if love was so complicated! It seems to me it's all the other garbage in life that complicates love.

I would agree no D talk is a step forward. Sounds like you are really self-controlled and good at not initiating R talks. That's so important to not pressure him and it sounds like you've got a handle on letting him be.