And yet there was a task I asked you to perform in my post.
"My emotions are getting the best of me. It's hard to just flip a switch after 13yrs and not seeing my boys all the time."
Got it. Understand it completely. This is normal and expected. It is actually one of the first things pointed out in the book. It is the one thing you need to control the most. When you forcibly remove something from someone they want it more. Think 2 kids with one toy. Just as you know there is plenty of time to play with the toy.. they both want it right now.
"I have not seen her in little over a week. We have just been doing things that we have had her mom switching or getting the kids. I want to avoid her as much as I can. Maybe then she might wonder about me like some have said."
Doing things with a "motive" is not the way you want to approach this. You have to think back on when you were dating.. or if you are dating now. What was/is attractive about you? How did you do things way back in the day? My favorite word to describe it is coy. You were trying to get her to talk to you because you found her attractive. You acted silly and said funny things. You most likely smiled alot. How does that compare to you now?
"I have been going out a little and doing things I did before this all happened. Which has made me feel better."
Based on everything you said after that statement leads me to believe your GAL activities are not very good. GAL will pull your mind out of things. It will be something that you could think about doing and it will stop you from thinking about your stitch. Try new things!!
Do or Do Not.. There is no try.
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
